Why Men Want Sex and Women Want Love
By Elena Solomon
Author, 12 Simple Rules



Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex. Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.

Women blame men they don't know how to love. Men blame women that they only talk about love but don't want to make it.

Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your life - finally, you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about the opposite gender.

The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which is predominantly male hormone. A normal male's body produces 20 times more of this hormone than a female's.
In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as a female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20 days feels the same way as a female after more than a year without sex.

Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of the opposite gender. It's NOT their fault: they are made this way! It's in our genes! This is the reason why men are men and women are women.

Men and women are DIFFERENT. Not better or worse, just different.

A man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only mother a child every two years or so. This means, a woman HAS TO be picky about who she allows to have sex with her.
For generations women were paying too high a price for making a wrong choice. Women that have chosen men with bad genes had a weaker offspring and their children struggled to survive. Women that have chosen men with good genes had a stronger offspring and their children survived disproportionately. Those children were carrying their picky mother's genes and this is why those female genes were passed to us.

On the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a wrong choice. The more children they produced, the higher was their chance to pass their genes to future generations, as some of them would certainly survive. While men were determined to seek better genes too, they had to grab all chances to procreate coming their way to ensure their genes would be passed forward. The men that ONLY stuck with one woman (even a high quality woman) were losing genetically to the men that used all of their opportunities and had many more children that survived. Those children were carrying their father's promiscuous genes, and this is why those male genes were passed to us.

By Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they can spread their seed wider.

By Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so they can make a better choice and get the best seed.

Men seek quantity - women seek quality.

This is why men seek sex and women seek love. Love is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that the man will stick around and help her with the upbringing of the offspring.

For a woman, sex is the culmination of her emotional commitment to a man. For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure he experiences constantly. Only after this tension has gone, can a man feel love towards a woman. This is why it often happens that men disappear after they got what they wanted: it wasn't love; it was the testosterone pressure. Sex for men is the reality check of their passion.

This is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for women: the man has not had the time to develop any romantic feelings for her. He needs time to develop those feelings, and the only way to do it is through keeping the sexual tension going for as long as practicable. Sex must be attainable, nearly possible - but not quite. When the sexual tension is at its peak, its release is mind-blowing - and once is never enough, which lays a proper foundation for a future relationship - and love.

Men fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love.

All of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize what's going on. But the reason why you are here today and alive is because each and every of your ancestors, men and women, acted true to their instincts and managed to attract at least one sexual partner and produce an offspring.

So, there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women wanting love. Those two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called Survival Of The Species.

And you'll be better off understanding what the other gender is going through and giving them exactly what they want: a mind-blowing sex or exhilarating love.

Go get 'em! :-)

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Elena Solomon is a Dating coach.Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It is a textbook how to bring your love life to the level of evolved dating. This book shows you EXACTLY how you can develop yourself into a self-confident and happy person who attracts people naturally.

Go here now

What Women Want
By Elena Solomon
Author, 12 Simple Rules


A while ago, a guy wrote to me saying that if he knew what women wanted, he would write a book and retire rich.

What women want was a secret to a man for a long, LONG time.

Mel Gibson and his famous movie “What Women Want” haven’t quite answered this question. In fact, this is exactly the answer to the question in his own words:

“After about 20 years of marriage, I'm finally starting to scratch the surface of what women want. And I think the answer lies somewhere between conversation and chocolate.”

I don’t know about you but this answer doesn’t quite cut it for me. If I were a guy, I would need something more specific to succeed with women!

Fortunately for you, after reading this article, it will no longer be a mystery. Because I am going to tell you EXACTLY what women want.

(I was thinking about writing a book and retiring rich… but decided to give this secret away for free for the good of the humanity.)

OK, let’s get to our nitty-gritty, shall we?

Generally, women want many things, including hot gossip and Italian shoes, but as far as men-women relationships are concerned, this is the one and the only women’s request:

They want strong, powerful, overwhelming EMOTIONS.

They want to be swept off their feet.

If you manage to deliver THAT, all other women’s desires and requirements become irrelevant: money, looks, height, education, status, or anything else men habitually put on the list of desired attributes - NONE of this really matters.

YES! A woman can fall hopelessly in love with a man who isn’t good looking, doesn’t have money, doesn’t have education, who is short, bald and old, as long as he manages to deliver these powerful EMOTIONS that women are craving.

Why?

Because her requirements for money and status come from intellectual, or CONSCIOUS part of the brain - and the emotion of love, or attraction, comes from emotional, or SUBCONSCIOUS part of the brain.

In other words, she cannot help it. She cannot decide NOT to be in love.

(Have you ever tried it yourself, to stop loving the person who you know isn’t good for you and who only brings you suffering and problems? How successful were these attempts?)

She doesn’t ‘step into’ love - she ‘falls into’ it.

It is absolutely imperative for you as a man to evoke strong emotions in a woman in order for her to fall in love with you.

And they don’t have to be positive emotions only - vice versa, an emotional roller coaster works the best. In other words, hate is NOT the opposite of love - it’s its associate and partner. Indifference is the opposite of love. It is easier for you to make a woman that hates you, to fall in love with you, than a woman who has no feelings whatsoever towards you.

What most men do not realize is that a woman does not have to LIKE you, in order to fall in LOVE with you. Yes, you’ve read it right: she may NOT like you but still fall in love with you. Quite often, the reason why she doesn’t like you is the very reason why she falls in love with you.

Confused?

You should be.

What I realized is that although we LIKE people that are ‘like us’, we LOVE people that have something that we DON’T HAVE. We are powerfully attracted to people that are DISTINCTIVELY DIFFERENT from us. The MORE different they are, the STRONGER is our attraction to them.

Since they are different from us, which means they aren’t ‘like us’, chances are this difference is something that we don’t actually like.

The powerful emotion of attraction that overrides all women’s requirements to a potential partner and makes her do the things she would not tell her mother about, is only evoked in a female by a DOMINANT MALE. In other words, the male she cannot control.

Women have in-built mechanism that reacts on the dominant male by making them weak at their knees and feeling swept off their feet - experiencing these all-powerful EMOTIONS they are after.

They respond to a predetermined pattern of behavior by falling in love with the person who exhibits this behavior. And this pattern can be learned - this is what is commonly known as ‘dating skills’.

Do you want to drive women crazy about you - to the extent they disregard your looks, finances and social status?

It is possible and attainable. And the best thing, you CAN do it.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a Dating coach.
Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It is a textbook how to bring your love life to the level of evolved dating. This book shows you EXACTLY how you can develop yourself into a self-confident and happy person who attracts people naturally.

Go here now

Dating for 2006
By Elena Solomon
Author, 12 Simple Rules



There is a new type of dating that grows from inside the old, "dating game" mode - evolved dating. What is 'evolved dating'?

It is dating for people who KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. In other words, people who are aware of the dynamics of men-women relationships, body language, effective communication, who have their life together and who understand that there is more to dating than pick-up lines.

Those people DON'T need the usual dating games, playing hard-to-get etc, etc. Like high-level sportsmen, they can spot each other in an instant.

Those people are the ones that cannot be missed in a crowd, who draw all the attention, even when they are seemingly doing nothing. They don't lie or use tricks; they are refreshingly honest and straightforward. And they never feel ashamed or inferior.

They possess calm, relaxed confidence that is as powerful as a nuclear reactor. The people comment about them, "There is something special about you" or call it, "a presence".

They simply look you in the eyes, and you start feeling weak at your knees. Your heart skips a bit and you start feeling dizzy. I have experienced this myself and seen this effect at work, once I learned how to do it.

You may now start wondering, how to gain such a power?
It's extremely simple, and at the same time it's hard work.

How can it be?

Because doing these things is really simple - but to make oneself doing them, takes commitment and courage. It's like giving up smoking - all you need to do is to stop buying your own cigarettes and borrowing from others. It's really simple. But so many people have been smoking for many years and complain they cannot give up (I have NEVER met a smoker who was over 20 and didn't want to quit!) .

People that are on the level of evolved dating are the people who are successful. My definition of success is: success is doing what it takes when you know you must do it.

Really simple.

Over the years I realized that there is really nothing new under the sun, and the simple things are the ones that work the best.

I have also realized that anyone can develop him or herself to the level of evolved dating, in as short a period as one year (or less).

The place to start is to STOP seeking approval of others. This will have an effect so dramatic, you can see the results in a month time - people will start asking you what happened and saying you have changed.

The key here: WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU IS *NONE* OF YOUR BUSINESS.

Most people worry all their life what other people will think of them, or what others will say, etc, etc. It's like cutting your own wings. You can fly but you refuse because you are afraid what others may think.

You maybe afraid being the best you can be because you think others can feel uncomfortable in your company. The truth is, it's exactly the other way around: by allowing yourself to be the best you can be, you give permission to others to be the best they can be.

Stop worrying about others. You are the most important person in your life and you only have so many years to live on this Earth. Make yourself happy and stop taking responsibility for other people's happiness. Your happiness is your choice. Their happiness is their choice. As long as they are adults, their happiness is none of your business.

And stop faking it.

You fake things because you are afraid the others won't like you the way you are. The truth is, the others are faking themselves just as you do, to please you. If you are honest, you are allowing them to be honest, too.

This is what evolved dating is about, and this is why those people are so powerfully confident: they don't fake it. They simply ARE. They don't seek your approval and they don't expect you to seek theirs.

Most people try to give themselves to other people. People that are on the level of evolved dating give you the gift of being YOURSELF. You don't have to fake it with them.
You can reach the level of evolved dating, too.

When do you want to start?

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a Dating coach.
Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It is a textbook how to bring your love life to the level of evolved dating. This book shows you EXACTLY how you can develop yourself into a self-confident and happy person who attracts people naturally.

Go here now

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